Sunday, November 9, 2014

Thoughts on being a boy mom

My children are chasing each other around the house in their underwear.  Around and around and around.  All I can hear is their screams and the smack smack smack of little feet hitting the wood and tile floors.  Does this happen at anyone else's house?  Or am I alone in my misery??  Not that I don't want them to have fun and play, but inevitably, the little one gets knocked down and starts crying. And then I start yelling.  And then there's more crying.   Wait 5 minutes and the cycle is repeated.

I guess this is part of being a boy mom.  Just like sitting down on the toilet seat and finding someone has peed all over it (or the floor).  Or stepping on a tiny Lego head in the middle of the night.  Or hearing someone yell, "Look Mom," and when I look, there is a butt crack staring back at me.  Yes, these are the joys of boys.

Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a girl mom.  Would my house be quieter?  Would there be less accidents and injuries?  Would my bathrooms stay clean??  I think about the girl things I am missing out on...dance class, ballet, American Girl dolls, PINK.  And then I remember, I don't really like those things anyway!  I'll take Legos and Spiderman over American Girl any day!  Not that I don't like girl things.  I like shopping.  I like fashion.  I like a good chick flick.  I like a day of pampering at the spa.  But in all honesty, I think I was made to be a boy mom.   It just feels right.

When I was pregnant with Nick, I was hoping for a boy.  When I was pregnant with Alec, I honestly wasn't hoping for one or the other but I did really and truly THINK it was a girl. Then came the ultrasound and NOPE.  There were definitely boy parts there!

It seems like most people hope for "one of each."  But I think that two of the same is just as nice!  I love to see the bond between 2 brothers or 2 sisters.  I love seeing their differences and similarities. I love seeing how they interact with one another.

Even at 2 and 5 (almost), I can see how different my boys are.
Nick is my brown haired, hazel eyed, high energy, dare devil, dramatic, emotional, sensitive, persistent, observant, creative, funny, intuitive, and sooo smart almost 5 year old.  He loves Legos, Star Wars and Super Heroes.  I think he is going to excel at math and science- he has one of those minds.  Nick is usually on "Nick time."  He likes to do things when he is good and ready and not a minute before. And he likes them done HIS way.  He also really enjoys music and singing which makes me sooo happy.  Music has been such a big part of my life and I am so excited that this is something we can share together!

Then there's Alec.  Blonde haired, blue eyed Alec.  Alec loves Special Agent Oso, Mickey Mouse and Spookley the Square Pumpkin.  He is definitely more laid back and even-keeled, but he does have a bad temper!!  Don't make this kid mad (you might get hit by a flying object). Luckily, he gets over things quick.  I have a feeling Alec is going to be an excellent athlete.  This kid already has a great arm and a great foot at 2 years old!!  Alec is sweet and smiley and loves to hug and laugh.  He loves animals.  He is loud, funny and very inquisitive.  He is into everything that he shouldn't be (outlets, cabinets, toilets, etc) whereas Nick never was.  He does not like to be told no. I have a feeling this kid isn't going to take crap from anyone (including his big brother)!

Both of them are very social.  They both hate pizza (how crazy is that?!) and they both love ice cream.  Neither of them likes to share their toys.  One minute they love each other, the next minute they are fighting and screaming.

So yes, being a mom to 2 boys, at least these 2 boys, is exhausting, exasperating and sometimes infuriating.  But being a mom to these 2 boys has also been the greatest gift I have ever been given.  I have known more love and joy in these past 5 years then ever before in my life. These boys amaze me every day.  It is such a privilege to be their mother and watch them grow.   I wouldn't change a bit of it (well....maybe the pee on the seat)!






20 comments:

  1. Hahaha, this reminds me of what if was like growing up with 4 brothers and no sisters. They will be great friends....and worst enemies at times, but hopefully mostly great friends. :)

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    1. Wow, 4 brothers!! I can't even imagine!

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  2. Awwww your boys are cute :) but who hates pizza?!?? Hehe.... They will probably like it when they are older and hate that they didn't like it as a kid ;-)

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    1. I know, right?! How can you hate pizza? LOL

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  3. I loved reading this, as a fellow mom of two boys!
    I have my brown hair/brown eyed boy, and my blonde hair/blue-eyed boy too :) :)

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    1. Aww, thanks Rachel! And your boys are so adorable!

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  4. Lol I loved reading this because I have two boys too, so I can totally relate. And no, you aren't alone...what you described sounds like a typical day around here too. It's CONSTANT with the rough housing. They love it until someone gets hurt, and someone ALWAYS gets hurt lol. But like you said, I think I was meant to be a boy mom too. I love having boys. And I had a brother growing up and always wondered what it would've been like to have a sibling of the same sex, so I was happy to have two boys because I think there's a special bond between siblings of the same sex, just like you mentioned!

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    1. I'm so glad to hear I'm not alone!!! And thanks for stopping by...I've been admiring your blog for a while now! :)

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  5. You're not alone at all!! This was so refreshing to me to read... Love a fellow boy mom :)

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    1. Thank you! Glad to connect with some other boy moms out there!

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  6. Beautiful post :) I'm a mum to 1 boy, who knows what the next will be?! I wouldn't mind another boy though!

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    1. Thank you so much! Good luck with #2!

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  7. Your boys are so cute! I can't wait for our two to have that same kind of special relationship (though they will be a mere 13 months apart) :)

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    1. Wow, 13 months apart! You are a brave lady! I bet they will be the best of friends!

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  8. I have two girls -- almost 3 and 1 and my house is always like this! My oldest is a spitfire and goes 100 mph from sun up to sun down. She isn't like all the other girls, and that's just fine. I had three brothers so having a girl made me a little nervous. I like dressing up but I was a tomboy and am still not into fashion or anything. But I love having girls. But I'd love to have a boy, too. Boys and girls can be so different, but I think we can all agree that regardless of gender, having little ones is hard!

    Erin
    www.itallmattersmom.com

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    1. For sure! Hard and wonderful rolled up into one!

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  9. I have 1 boy and it's already tiring sometimes! He runs around the house in his diapers by himself! haha But I would still love to have 2 boys! 2 boys and 1 girl!

    The Memoirs of a Mommy

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    1. LOL! These boys love to take their clothes off!

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  10. I had so much fun reading this. I hardly know of a couple who does not want 'one of each' and my husband and I are no exceptions. But then, I think same gender siblings are probably a better team.

    Best wishes to your boys!
    Great to have you partying with us at Wake Up Wednesdays.

    Co-host,
    Tanya
    http://tanyaanurag.blogspot.com/

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  11. I used to want lots of girls, but now I would love to be a boy mom! I loved reading your story. Thanks for sharing it with Hump Day Happenings.

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